The Power of Lifelong Connection

Today's entry is all about friendship and the power of lifelong connections. I want to talk about something that filled my cup in a way I didn’t even know I needed. It’s about friendship. More specifically, it’s about those old, meaningful connections that somehow stand the test of time—even when life gets busy, messy, and a little complicated. Sometimes, the best kind of healing comes from a conversation with someone who knew you before you were who you are now.

I’ve mentioned my oldest and best friend before. And thankfully, I still have other wonderful and supportive women in my life. Some I’ve not spoken to much over the years. Not because I didn’t want to connect- but because life gets busy, and we don’t always make the time to prioritize these connections- especially if you live 1000 miles away from each other.

I recently had an almost four-hour conversation with a woman I met 38 years ago. We sat next to each other in French class in college. She was a freshman, and I was a junior. I knew from the moment I met her, that she was someone special. I encouraged her to go through rush, and she joined my sorority, and I became her sorority mom. College was full of fun and making memories, and the years following college we were bridesmaids in each other’s weddings, but then life happens. We have kept in touch through the years—though not constantly. There were marriages, kids, divorces, careers, and all the beautiful and hard things in between. The magic of social media allows you to communicate with someone through likes and comments on posts, so technically, we can communicate quite often. However, talking is a different story. She texted me saying that we needed a “catch up”, so we made a date for a phone call. It’s crazy that we have to make a date to talk, but as most of you know, our lives are so busy, and sometimes we need to make sure we set aside time to do these things.

It has been a very long time since we actually talked, but when we spoke, it was like no time had passed. It wasn’t small talk—it was soul talk. We shared laughter and a lot of “I get it” and I totally understand moments. Though I am not going to divulge our private conversation, I’ll share that it turns out, we’ve walked some very similar paths when it comes to relationships, heartbreak, motherhood, dating after divorce, and just navigating life as sensitive, empathetic women.

And here’s what struck me the most: that conversation gave me life. 

It reminded me that connection—real, raw, honest connection—is medicine.   

Sometimes, the exact support you need isn’t a new book, a course, or even therapy—sometimes it’s a familiar voice from the past who sees you, hears you, and makes you feel like you’re not alone.

In midlife, we’re often so focused on what’s ahead: health, careers, caring for others, figuring out what’s next. But sometimes the most powerful move is to look back with gratitude for the people who were part of your story… and who still are.

The conversation with my dear friend Angela, was exactly what I needed and completely filled my heart.

So, here’s my gentle nudge to you:

Is there someone you haven’t talked to in a while? Someone who made you feel seen and understood in a way few people do?

Maybe it’s time to send that text, make that call, or meet for coffee.

You don’t have to pick up where you left off—but revisiting that bond might be the very thing your heart needs right now.

Old friendships carry a kind of knowing that’s hard to replicate. They remind you of who you were, celebrate who you are, and make space for who you’re still becoming. And that… is a beautiful kind of magic.

If reading this sparked someone’s name in your heart, don’t let that feeling pass. Reach out. Reconnect. Even if it’s been years. Especially if it’s been years. Because sometimes, the soul just needs to remember it’s not walking alone.

Until next time, always hold space for the people who hold you up, and make you feel most like you.